Awakening Internal

Personal growth through the eyes of love

What She Learned From Her Dying Father

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45 years ago my mentor’s father died while serving our country.

Her mom was 16 weeks pregnant with her and had two small girls (her sisters), ages 3 and 5.

To say his death shattered all of their worlds is an understatement.

Her mom went on to remarry but the wound in her heart caused her to never really give herself fully to her step-father.

As she says, this is a common pattern for women.

A man breaks your heart so you never fully give yourself to another.

My mentor (Kristin Sweeting Morelli) watched how her mom only gave her step-father small pieces of herself emotionally and intimately.

She cringed while she watched her mom emasculate him by rolling her eyes at him or getting annoyed with him, by not telling him what she needed to open, by withholding love and affection from him, by being passive aggressive with him.

It became second nature to her and she went on to be her mother’s daughter, emasculating men who loved her deeply.

She would even choose weak men who she could find fault with and push around or who would tolerate her unavailability.

She would exploit their love and devotion to her by always keeping them on an improvement plan.

It was her way of staying “safe” but eventually, she discovered this path was making her (and them) miserable.

She thought men deserved her treatment.

After all, how was she going to “train” them if she didn’t use her methods.

If any of this resonates in your body, you might want to {check out this audio with Kristin Sweeting Morelli and Alison Armstrong} where they talk about how to Become a Queen in your relationships with men.

The audio costs you nothing.

You will also be invited to join the R.E.D. Sisterhood in the Become a Queen program if you like.  The doors will close on Friday, June 3rd.

https://no122.isrefer.com/go/BaQ2016/awakening

Through the eyes of love,

MICHELLE DANCY,  CHHC, AADP

p.s.  A note from Kristin:  “It’s my aim to honor all men (including my father) by becoming a space where men live their greatness and are appreciated by me and all women for it.  I hope you’ll join us.”

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Author: michelledancy2014

Michelle is the founder of Awakening Holistic Healthcare, a Holistic Health practice dedicated to guiding clients through an awakening process enabling them to discover their personal and individual passions, purpose and destiny. Michelle’s passion is to coach her clients to discover their self-worth, value and to create extraordinary lives for themselves. Michelle’s ultimate belief is that there are no mistakes, everyone has inner and outer beauty and she conveys this truth and thought process to her clients through individual coaching, group sessions, workshops, weekend retreats and speaking engagements. A talented public speaker, Michelle moves and inspires her audiences through the authenticity of her message coupled with the power and passion of her own personal transformative experience. Eleven years ago Michelle was morbidly obese and believed having gastric bypass surgery would solve all of her problems. She soon realized this was only a first step to initiating her transformation and awakening process. She now uses her personal experience and training as a holistic health coach to guide clients on a journey towards self-realization, health and healing; a path she knows well. Michelle currently resides in Nashville, NC and is a single parent to her four beautiful children. She is a practicing coach in Nashville and Raleigh, NC and she recently graduated from The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, the largest nutrition school in the world, in September 2013. She is as dedicated in her quest to advance her knowledge as she is to apply those teachings to her clients and through continuous holistic education, Michelle’s coaching practice continues to grow. Never could she have imagined, 11 years ago, that she could not only lead a happy, healthy and holistic life, but that she would be so fulfilled through her vocation to offer help and service to others that are in a similar place.

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