I read something this week that really resonated with me,from the book Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone. She is talking about how people, women specifically, have been trained to not feel sensation. Nicole gives the following example: a mother is taking her little girl to her first day of kindergarten and the little girl states that she has butterflies in her stomach. Her mother dismisses the feeling that is in her daughter’s belly by stating that she’s just nervous. Now, in my opinion, the mother has 100% good intentions, but isn’t this the beginning of being taught to not being present with what’s going on inside of us? Is this resonating with you already? Does this training spill over into every other area of your life? Does this mentality spill over into your sensual life..your sensual self? It did mine! Ever since I read this, I have been very intentional about “feeling” and being really in tune with WHAT I’m feeling specifically in my body..paying attention to my core. Do you see how being intentional about “feeling” what’s going on inside of you could be so beneficial on SO many levels?
We are taught as women to “hide”our sensuality, so we are deemed as “good girls”, but our sensual selves is WHO WE ARE and it’s natural and normal, it doesn’t make us “bad girls”!
This weekend and week ahead, be very intentional about “feeling” what you have going on inside of you and embrace it..Good or unpleasant and see what kind of shift happens in you personally. There is no right or wrong way to feel what you’re feeling. Honor where you are, acknowledge where you are, be present and LOVE yourself for it!!
Through The Eyes of Love,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP