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Do You Feel….YOU?????

I read something this week that really resonated with me,from the book Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone.  She is talking about how people, women specifically, have been trained to not feel sensation.  Nicole gives the following example: a mother is taking her little girl to her first day of kindergarten and the little girl states that she has butterflies in her stomach.  Her mother dismisses the feeling that is in her daughter’s belly by stating that she’s just nervous.  Now, in my opinion, the mother has 100% good intentions, but isn’t this the beginning of being taught to not being present with what’s going on inside of us? Is this resonating with you already? Does this training spill over into every other area of your life?    Does this mentality spill over into your sensual life..your sensual self? It did mine! Ever since I read this, I have been very intentional about “feeling” and being really in tune with WHAT I’m feeling specifically in my body..paying attention to my core.  Do you see how being intentional about “feeling” what’s going on inside of you could be so beneficial on SO many levels?
We are taught as women to “hide”our sensuality, so we are deemed as “good girls”, but our sensual selves is WHO WE ARE and it’s natural and normal, it doesn’t make us “bad girls”!
This weekend and week ahead, be very intentional about “feeling” what you have going on inside of you and embrace it..Good or unpleasant and see what kind of shift happens in you personally.  There is no right or wrong way to feel what you’re feeling.  Honor where you are, acknowledge where you are, be present and LOVE yourself for it!!

Through The Eyes of Love,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com

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What is a Holistic Health Coach?

I get the question all of the time….”What is it you do exactly??”

First things first, what in the heck does “Holistic” mean??  My little handy dandy dictionary app defines holistic as 1. “incorporating the concept of holism in theory or practice: holistic psychology” 2. “Medicine/Medical.  Identifying with principles of holism in a system of therapeutics, especially one considered outside the mainstream of scientific medicine, as naturopathy or chiropractic, and often involving nutritional measures: holistic medicine.”.  Synonyms (adjective: complete, whole) are listed as:  Aggregate, comprehensive, entire, full, integrated, total and universal.  Synonyms (adjective: of broad-ranging consciousness-raising movement) are listed as: Age of Aquarius, alternative, astrological, balanced, crystal healing, holistic, mystic, occult, planetary, spiritual, supernaturalist.  Synonyms (adjective: good for health) are listed as:  Healthy, holistic, salubrious, wholesome.  Antonyms:  unhealthy.  My definition in layman’s terms: holistic is working with a client/patient as a WHOLE person and at every level:  Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Each of us are made up of 3 parts, the physical body, the spirit and our mind/emotions.  If one of our 3 parts is out of balance and/or sick, then it will affect the other 2 parts. Example:  Suzy Q can eat as clean and eat exactly what her body needs to be at optimum health BUT if Suzy Q has a stressful job, that she dreads going to and absolutely hates, then this WILL affect her physically, potentially raising blood pressure, causing belly fat and/or disrupting sleep.   Make sense???

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Who do I work with?

I work with clients that want to:  lose weight, eat healthier, manage stress, sleep well, heal their bodies naturally, have better relationships, want to live life to the fullest, enhance and grow their spiritual life, have success with weight loss surgery, learn to love themselves, have fulfilling sex lives, have a better quality of life, manage their time more efficiently, cook more.

Example:  I have a client that started with me when she was 38 and she has Graves Disease. Her Doctor’s RX was to do radiation on her thyroid, but of course, my client didn’t want to do this if it wasn’t necessary.  She came to me with hopes of learning some ways to tweak her diet and lifestyle in order to just regulate her thyroid levels; stress and diet impact the thyroid and was contributing to her levels being off.  By the end of her six month program with me, she went for a check up with her doctor and her levels were regulated, yay!!  Two months later, her levels were actually improved and her doctor has finally told her that she will leave her alone with regards to doing radiation on her thyroid…again, YAY!!!!  I am SO super proud of my client, because without her actually doing the “work”, nothing would’ve changed for her.

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What is my approach? 

Well, that depends on YOU!  Nutritionally, I take a bio individuality approach with each of my clients. What is bio individuality??  Bio individuality recognizes that everyone is a unique individual that has nutritional and physical activity requirements based on that uniqueness to reach optimum health.  In other words, food that is healthy and healing for me, could be poison for you.  Physical activity- same thing, everyone is different.  Example:  Your body may thrive on walking two miles a day, gentle yoga or a quick bike ride, whereas, my body NEEDS 90 minutes of KICK ASS, balls to the wall physical activity, 6 days a week, whether it’s Hot Yoga, running or an intense bike ride ALL uphill to be at optimum health.  Spirituality- I meet my clients where they “are”, through the eyes of love and support them through their journey to becoming fulfilled in their spiritual life, whatever that may look like for them.

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When do I work with my clients?

I typically work with my clients twice a month, either in my office face to face or through a phone or Skype appointment.  Through technology, I can literally work with anyone, anywhere in the world.  My clients have ongoing support from me between appointments through my private Facebook page (that is for my clients only) and through email, text or phone.  The first appointment is a Consultation Session, or as I like to call it, a Breakthrough Session.  During the Breakthrough Session, we cover concerns, goals and decide what the best approach is to help them reach their goals.

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My heart!

I DO LOVE each and every one of my clients SO much!  Each of them have impacted me in such a way, that I’m a better person for knowing them and for them making me apart of their lives.  I learn from each of my clients and feel my spirits lift each time I see them.  My heart is for each one to see themselves through the eyes of love and to see themselves as the perfection that they are! I thrive on the breakthroughs, the light bulb moments and the tears of healing…because I love the person in front of me and he or she deserves the absolute best that life has to offer them ♥

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How can you start YOUR process?

It’s actually very simple, just the way I like it!  Just visit my website by clicking here to get even more info.  From the landing page (home page),  click on the “Connect” tab and choose “health forms” from the drop down menu, then just submit your health form once you fill it out.  Once I receive it, I will contact you to set up your BREAKTHROUGH SESSION!  See….isn’t that easy!?

Feel free to share this article and if  you still have questions, or you have any comments, please feel free to drop a line below in the comments section….I love to hear from you!!

Through The Eyes of Love,

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

 


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A Growing Year

This, without a doubt, has been a “growing” (aka challenging) year for my children and me.
Here’s to name a few of our growth opportunities:
* The very unexpected death of my 41 year old sister on Christmas Eve
* Divorce
* Being cast into the role of not only being a single mother, but single-handedly raising a teenage girl and a teenage boy. Solo. Alone. Solo. Solo. Oh, and did I mention SOLO??
* My beautiful souls that I have been blessed to care for until they leave the nest, being reduced from having two active parents to one active parent.
* Financial “tightness” due to divorce
* My brave 15 year old daughter had to make the toughest decision this summer. She had to have the love of her life, Phoenix (her beautiful Paint Horse), put down due to eye cancer and another major health issue, both were causing her to suffer immense pain.
* At the beginning of this year, my young teenage son (13), went through a tough time with the transition of his relationship with his father. He was engulfed in anger, acted out and I was worried I would lose him!

Now to switch gears, let’s do a 180! For all of you that have been reading my blog and following me on social media, you know I always like to come back to the positive side of a situation. I thrive on being real, raw and showing how tough, hopeless and ugly “growing opportunities” are, but I love to come back and show you what I have learned, how I have grown and how I/we have arrived on the other side of a situation in tact; with the hopes of encouraging just one person!

Here’s a list of POSITIVE lessons learned:
* With the loss of my sister, I have learned to make peace with one of the most heartbreaking losses of my life. My Spirit has been expanded. I grieved without “stuffing it” and honored where I was at the moment. I grieved without apology.
* Divorce was a healthy move for my kids and me. We were caught up in the cycle of abuse and our home is now a safe haven, there is peace (most of the time 🙂 ) and there is laughter….LOTS of laughter and being silly!

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* Parenting can be tough, as most of us know, in the best of circumstances. Solo parenting….SIGH! It is ideal for children to have both parents involved and engaged with them. It is ideal for children to know that they can depend on both parents and to have the security knowing that they can lean on both parents for support and comfort. Here’s the positive: The three of us have become even closer. We are a better family unit because of our dependence on each other. It has made us stronger individually and collectively. Life isn’t perfect and we certainly have our days (yesterday was one of “those days”), but we get through them and we love each other from the core of our beings. After all, LOVE is the answer, right??
* The financial tightness is what it is. Finances are a trigger for me to really stress, in fact I’m carrying around my 8 lb stress belly right now, as we speak! (okay 10 lbs!! I’m a woman, hard not to fudge! wink wink) It comes and goes and it’s okay. We are learning to not be quite so spoiled. I am learning to do things for myself that I didn’t know how to do before. Thanks to my amazing, perfect boyfriend, who taught me how….I actually put my lawn mower on a battery charger and jumped it ALL BY MYSELF!! I was so proud of myself…. I felt so empowered and I AM SO EMPOWERED! He even taught me about the choke thingy on the weed eater and blower…it blocks the air off from the carburetor (did I even spell that right??) so it will spark when you pull the string and start….I think that’s right?? I’m so right brain, so when he’s explaining things like this to me.. I just smile and think “wow! he’s so smart! and sexy….smart is so sexy…I love his eyes.. his voice.. that smile gets me every time.. he totally knows, this is going completely over my head”. ( I’m really not A.D.D.!!). Point being, I’m not just learning Soul expanding “lessons”, I’m learning day to day practical lessons too, that empower me!
* My daughter having to make the toughest decision of her life blew me away! When she came to me with her decision, that she wasn’t even asked to make, I was in awe. How can a 15 year old girl, look at her horse that she loves more than anything in this world and put her heartache to the side to determine that she loves her Phoenix too much to let her continue living a less than quality life. That her bad days were outweighing her good days. That her pain was too great. That Phoenix would be better off being put down, she was suffering. It moves me to tears. I learned strength, courage, selflessness, wisdom, discernment and bravery on a whole new level. I will forever pull from the courage I saw in my daughter, when faced with a fearful situation… I will never forget.

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* When my son was going through such a tough time, I was scared too death! I was afraid that he would lose himself in the anger that had engulfed him. I was diligent in not making him feel shameful for his anger and making sure that he FELT and EXPERIENCED the love I have for him, even when he was a “cactus” and not a “magnet”. Making sure that he felt understood, validated AND loved, loved, loved…no matter what! Well, you know what “they” say…it gets worse before it gets better and it did, but one day he woke up and it was behind him, just like that! He was on the other side of it, he had worked through it! He was himself again. RELIEF!!! I learned that everyone has their own, personal process and AGE doesn’t matter. My son needed the space, support and love to get him on the other side of this and what was going on in him really didn’t have anything to do with me or his sister. I learned resilience, perseverance, that it’s never too late, our actions do not define WHO we are. I already knew this truth, that our actions do not define who we are, but I actually got to see it on steroids. When he was on the other side of this hiccup in his life, he didn’t look back, he didn’t “beat himself up”, he’s moved on…life goes on! I saw him honor where he was, I saw a truly healthy soul navigating a very tough loss, I saw strength. In retrospect, it was beautiful!

I have so many wonderful blessings in my life; family, a nice home, good friends, dream career, I’m kinda crazy about these kids I have and I’m kinda liking the boyfriend too! I see on a daily basis how past experiences HAD to happen, in order for me to receive what and who I have now.

Now, on this beautiful, sunny afternoon, I’m going to close up shop, cut my grass AND put new string on the weed eater and weed eat like a BOSS!!

Do you have a story of a “growth opportunity”? Does this blog post resonate with you? I would love to hear from you in the comments section and feel free to share with anyone that needs the encouragement to just hang in there!

Through The Eyes of Love ♥

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
Awakening Holistic Healthcare
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28 Day Slim, Sexy and Smart Weight Loss Program

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Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

So you’re considering the 28 Day Slim, Sexy & Smart™ Program? I think you’ll love it, along with my approach to compact nutrition that seems to just naturally melt away all your problem areas! 

You’ll find my focus is around healthy eating, combined with stress-releasing days of fun, moderate exercise, proper supplementation & lots of self-care.

I’ll get you going with basic concepts, and then add more advanced Slim, Sexy & Smart secrets to maintain your progress.

You’ll find ways to boost your immunity, add energy and of course, you’ll look and feel great too!    

Join me and learn that you can eat good food, enjoy your food and lose weight all at the same time.  You will learn directly from a Certified Health Coach, who will be there for you every step of the way. I am so looking forward to you supporting you!

“Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels.” ― Elizabeth Berg

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Lose weight without dieting and discover how to eat your way to SLIM and enjoy doing it! Find happy, healthy habits founded in good nutrition without starving or detoxing.

Upon registration you’ll receive an email so we can set up your (3) one on one coaching appointments with me and with immediate access to your “Getting Started Guide” with loads of information on how to clean up your diet and your life, including a suggested shopping list and resource guide to make your program a complete success.

You will start receiving the first of 28 emails from me.  You will be given daily modules and workbooks with affirmations, informational materials, daily “tasks”, tools, tips and fabulous recipes!  You’re going to feel so vibrant and overflowing with energy and good vibes throughout these 28 days that you will want to maintain your new perspective forever!

What you will learn from me:

How to listen to your gut and trust your body to let you know what you should be eating.  Don’t expect a bunch of no-carb, low-fat, raw,

vegetarian meals or a strict list of what you have to eat.

Best kept secrets from top-notch health coaches, founded on the principles of bio- individuality, meaning no cookie cutter approaches,

because everybody is different.

  • What are the best super foods on the planet, how should you select them and simple ways to incorporate them into daily living.
  • Find out which supplements work best for you.
  • Practical information about digestion, probiotics and enzymes.  Your body will thank us for it.
  • Explore how you can lose weight by adding in healthy foods.
  • Find out which foods you should never eat.  You may be surprised.
  • I encourage cooking at home with delicious whole foods.
  • The truth about “carbs”.
  • How to eat out responsibly. Yes…you can even travel and still eat healthy.
  • Discover there are healthy fats…and find out which ones.
  • Locate your Primary Food sources and find out how they can influence your weight more than calorie counting and deprivation combined.
  • Beauty tips real beauty

Your complete package contains:

  • 28-days of inspiration, direction, accountability, worksheets, and fun.(value $2,607 )
  • 2- One on One Visits with a Registered and Certified Health Coach (value $333)

Regularly $457

For a limited time only, NEW YEARS RESOLUTION SPECIAL, $375

Email me at michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com for more information

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Through The Eyes of Love,

 

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

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michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com

 


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Are You Worth A Nickel?

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Living in the bible belt, I have heard many Preachers stand in the pulpit and proclaim, “WE AREN’T WORTHY!“, and I want to stand up and shout to the top of my lungs, “YES WE ARE!!”. I honestly think these are well-meaning people, but I think they have it all wrong. If man says “we are not worthy” and your creator says “you ARE worth everything”, then who is right? Man or your creator? My vote goes to my creator!! Saying that we’re not worthy is a really good way to keep congregations in a state of feeling guilty and shameful, plus, it’s a great tool for controlling their followers…especially women.

When I was 17, I “dated” an 18-year-old young man, we’ll call him Jason. Jason had zero respect for me and was completely detached emotionally. During this brief time that I dated him, he raped me twice. Both times I said “no”, but was easily intimidated and I didn’t have the “fight or flight” instinct in me, I just FROZE. He ignored my “no” and proceeded with his agenda. I walked away both times feeling that I was worse than trash and that I somehow deserved it because I didn’t fight back. I couldn’t tell anyone because WHAT IF they confirmed my worse fear….that it was my fault. I guess after the second rape, Jason was done with me and moved on to his next naïve, precious girl. Later that school year, I went to the beach over spring break with some friends and ran into Jason at the mall. We stopped and spoke for a minute and when we walked away, I told my friends not to let him take me anywhere if he showed up that night at our condo because I was afraid of him. I knew in my gut that he was going to show up and he did. He walked in and took me by the hand and literally drug me out of our condo and for the first time, I resisted by pulling away from him. He overpowered me and put me in his lap in his car and had a friend driving and one of my girlfriends was in the backseat, oblivious to what was about happen. His friend drove us to their hotel room and Jason told me to sit on the bed while he opened a beer for us. I took a few drinks of my beer and Jason started reaching for the drawer beside his bed and started opening a condom, I quickly and firmly told him “no!” and like in the past, he ignored me as if I wasn’t speaking..as if I didn’t have a voice. The room started spinning, I started getting very sleepy and tried to get up to leave but I couldn’t move. I don’t know how much time had passed but I woke up, under the covers and undressed from the waist down and I knew he had raped me. About the time I was waking up, his friend came through the door and Jason got out of bed and said, “take her back to her condo, I’m getting a shower”. I was so confused… I didn’t know what time it was, how long I had been asleep, WHY I fell asleep and I was so groggy that I just did what I was told to do. I learned many years later that Jason had given me a date rape drug.

(Whew! That was hard to write and relive! It has cause a visceral reaction in my gut and I’m shaking like a leaf!)

Being violated and treated this way sent me spiraling into the abyss of darkness, depression and not thinking I was good enough for anyone, ESPECIALLY a man who would truly love and respect me. I made decisions for most of my life based on this image I had of myself. I embraced the belief that my femininity was a curse, beauty is ugly and I can not stress this enough, but I hated myself!! The shame, guilt and fear that I embraced, drove me to land in a marriage that was very volatile, controlling and constant cheating. I remember on several occasions after being verbally or even physically attacked thinking, I don’t blame him…I hate me too!! In the middle of the chaos I started reaching for what was in the kitchen cabinets to soothe me, food! In retrospect, I realize I was also building a physical wall around me, to protect me from anyone hurting me again through rape or abuse. By the time I was 33, I weighed in at 258 pounds and was classified by doctors as morbidly obese. I somehow thought that if I was “skinny” that my life would be perfect because being “skinny” would somehow add value to me as a person. On January 31, 2003 I had gastric bypass surgery and in 10 months I was down to a very healthy weight, but nothing about my life had changed, except my dress size. When I settled into my new body, that’s when the proverbial shit hit the fan, but that is a whole other story for another blog post on a later day. Point being, I want you to see what lead my thoughts about myself to such a dark place and how not loving myself affected my life. Through lots of tears, courage and time, I have healed and learned to love myself and I know that I’m perfect being exactly who I am!

There are many people, men and women, that really struggle with wrapping their mind around knowing of or seeing a woman who embraces her beauty, sensuality, intelligence, intuition and living her life to her full potential. Women that DO dance to the beat of their own drum, find a lot of the time, incorrect assumptions are made about them. A perfect example of this is, several years ago, my husband and I were going out with friends about once a month. We would usually go to Raleigh and go dancing, listen to bands and have a lot of fun! Because of this, a male member of my family called me and he asked me if we were swingers!! Now, I have to admit that this was a HUGE set back for me because it put me back to feeling like I was lower than low. The good news is, through a few of my counseling sessions I got back on track and realized that what he thought of me was his issue and it said nothing about me.

You were created for a very real purpose and really great things are waiting for you! Honor where you are, whether it’s where you want to be or not. If it’s not where you want to be then you can make a shift starting right now! The first step is to start learning to love yourself and this can be very difficult on your own. If this is a direction you want and need to go, then seek out support. When you learn to love yourself, then you learn to accept healthy love from others and you learn to love others in a healthy way. You will be open and available for a love that runs deep, from your heart, from your soul. You will have the potential to find a love that you never knew was possible for yourself, for someone and from someone whether that is with your partner you have now or, if single, someone in your future. When you love and respect yourself, you will put healthier food into your body because you will KNOW that you only deserve the best and of course, by default, you will make loving decisions for your life.

So, are you with a nickel?? YES!! You are PRICELESS, to infinite and back!! Your creator doesn’t make JUNK! You, like me, are PERFECT being exactly who you are. Each creation on this planet is complete beauty and perfection, and that absolutely includes YOU!!

Through The Eyes Of Love,

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

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IF YOU ARE NOT MAKING LOVING DECISIONS FOR YOUR LIFE AND NEED SUPPORT LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF, CONTACT ME AT michelledancy.healthcoach@gmail.com FOR YOUR FREE CONSULTATION