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Love Heals (Part One)

This is part one of a two part blog post, so stay tuned for part two!

This weekend I was having a conversation with a friend, she was telling me about research she has done on babies that are  removed from their birth parents, at birth.  She was sharing that babies go into survival mode because they can’t smell their mothers or hear their mothers voices or heartbeats.  This, naturally, can cause long term issues with abandonment, security and fear.   As we’re talking, she points to my almost 9 month old granddaughter and says, she’s so happy and thriving though(??).

My granddaughter was placed with me when she was just 11 weeks old.  As Forrest Gump says, “and that’s all I have to say about that”, so I won’t go into the gory details surrounding that decision.

I used to “eye roll” back in the day, when I would hear Hillary Clinton say, “it takes a village”…HA!  She couldn’t have been more spot on, it DOES take a village!!  Our sweet baby has a village of people that love her completely and enjoy every little thing that she does and of course, we ALL think she’s the most beautiful, smartest, sweetest baby EVER…and we’re not prejudice a bit!! My granddaughters village, or tribe as I refer to us sometimes, is made up of partially blood related relatives and partially friends; we are ALL family now.  Our sweet baby and unconditional love are the foundation of our makeshift family and it’s perfection!

Love is Patient, Love is Kind:

Going from being a single parent to two teenagers, to a single parent to two teenagers and a new baby has been a MAJOR transition for me personally, to say the least.  Going from teenagers that will sleep late, therefore on the weekends I could sleep until I decided I wanted to get up and have a little quiet time in the mornings, to having a new baby in the house that was up every few hours and the opportunity for me to ease into my days were yanked right out from under my feet and was about to send me OVER THE EDGE.
I have a growing Health Coaching Practice, it’s one of my passions, but when our sweet baby came to live with us, the momentum I had, stopped in its tracks and working was put on the back burner for awhile and I let this overwhelm me with stress, and anxiety became a daily battle.
Dealing with caseworkers, a whole new territory for me, I had so much to learn and so many people in and out of my house and this was a little scary for me.  I wanted to be transparent with them and tell them how afraid I was to take on raising a baby with everything I was already juggling, but I was afraid they may place our sweet baby in foster care and I couldn’t bare the thoughts of that!  For the record, each and every case worker has been so wonderful!  They truly care about the children!!  Also, every single person I have dealt with in The Department of Social Services has been a huge support for me and my family.
Court.  We have been in and out of court, the neglected and abused division, needless to say that this has been eye opening and heartbreaking.  The cases that go before the judge are unbelievable and I leave there in tears and a heavy heart for days sometimes.  The teenagers that are “in the system” and have been for YEARS…it kills me. One teenage boy is in a substance abuse program because he hasn’t seen his mom in over a year, he’s hurting so badly that he’s medicating himself.  A teenage girl, thriving in school, the judge commends her for doing so well and she inspires me that in spite of all she’s been handed in life, she is on her game….but in the deepest part of me, I also know that she is wanting to prove that she is worthy of love.   I think, “is this our babies future? Is she going to always feel as though she has to prove herself? Is this going to drag out for years?”  I can say with CONFIDENCE, HELL TO THE NO!!  This is not her future!  She is thriving physically, mentally and emotionally and WILL CONTINUE DOING SO!!

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Now to tie all of this together and tell you why I put this information in this section of my blog post.  Love is patient and Love is kind.  This isn’t about me being patient and kind with our baby.   This portion is about the patience and kindness (LOVE) shown to me on a daily basis, which enables me to do what I do.  Needless to say, I have had more than my fair share of meltdowns through this situation and I’ve needed to just have the space to say what I needed to say, rational or not.  I have to say that I hit “rock bottom” almost a month ago when I realized I had our baby by myself for the weekend, while my teenagers were going to be at their dads for the weekend.  I so desperately need these every other weekends to recharge, it makes me a better mom.   I have never felt so defeated…so alone.  I have this amazing boyfriend, he is my biggest fan and he is my rock.  He calls me when he gets off of work, as he always does, and immediately he knows I’m not in a good place.  I said things to him that I was feeling about myself that I haven’t even thought in YEARS, it makes me want to cry thinking about it now.  I didn’t pretend, I didn’t sugar coat anything, in fact I almost felt too defeated to even talk at times.  To be honest, and I don’t even think I’ve told him this, but I didn’t even want to answer the phone when he called me that day because I felt “too ugly” to even expose his beautiful heart to my darkness.  He loved me through it; he was patient, he was kind, he saw me through the eyes of love, compassion and understanding.  He  assured me that I am not defeated, that I am the strongest person he knows, I am not alone…he called and checked on me through the night and even made sure I got into bed and that I was going to be able to sleep, and sent me lots of love!  Having the freedom to be transparent with the darkness that I was experiencing that night, some how enabled me to get on the other side of all of the overwhelm and anxiety that I had been experiencing and I haven’t had that debilitating anxiety that I had been dealing with since!  His love has filled me, healed me, which has spilled over into our sweet babies life and has enabled her life to remain constant and stable.

Love Always Protects, Always Trusts, Always Hopes, Always Preserves:

I wish I could take all of the credit for the fact that she is so happy and thriving, but I can’t by a long shot.  The only thing I can really take credit for is setting her up for success.  I have been diligent about protecting her from the negativity of the situation surrounding her birth parents, to the best of my ability and I have been diligent about surrounding her with people that love her and see her as the perfect little angel that she is.
I have a friend, her mother and her daughter, that are now family.  My friend has quickly become the other grandmother to our baby and she loves her as much as I do!  I have leaned on my new family the most with helping while I work and helping with the every other weekends, when my teenagers are at their dads.  She is also my friend and I have been able to lean on her during the emotional times too.  We lean on each other, because sometimes we both worry about different things around this situation and let our fears get the best of us…we get each other and love each other.  They are vested as much as I am and because of that and the love they have for our baby, I value their voice, I trust them.  Our sweet girl, loves them all so much along with everyone else in her village.

Her “village or tribe” has approximately 15 people in it and each and everyone of us take off of work and clear our calendars in order to go to court when there is a court date, (my parents drive 4 hours..one way) because we each love and support our baby and each of us want the absolute best for her.  My parents keep us stocked up on diapers, wipes and formula, thanks to Amazon.  My oldest son and his fiancé have bought her clothes, a car seat, diapers, wipes. My future daughter-in-law has come to my house to help me clean, babysit and they do anything that I ask them to do.  Everyone contributes in so many ways, I don’t think I could even begin to list it all and I couldn’t be more grateful!

The love; protection, trust, hope and preservation that she experiences on a daily basis has healed her from the neglect, abandonment, insecurities and the extreme fear she used to experience when she was placed in a position that was unsettling for her.  Every single person that meets our baby for the first time, even case workers and the nurses and Doctors at her pediatricians office, say she is the happiest baby they have ever seen!  People ask me all of the time if she’s always “this happy” and unless she’s getting hungry or sleepy, she IS always “this happy”.  I attribute her happiness to the love she receives at home and the love she receives from her village….her family.

Did you know that babies can exhibit their gifts?  I didn’t know that, until now.  Our baby draws people in, she wins their hearts over the second someone lays eyes on her and she creates unification, families and oneness.  She is a game changer and she is going to shake this world up that we live in….just wait and see!  Love has not only healed our precious little angel, but quite possibly our little angel is healing her tribe most of all.

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Do You Feel….YOU?????

I read something this week that really resonated with me,from the book Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone.  She is talking about how people, women specifically, have been trained to not feel sensation.  Nicole gives the following example: a mother is taking her little girl to her first day of kindergarten and the little girl states that she has butterflies in her stomach.  Her mother dismisses the feeling that is in her daughter’s belly by stating that she’s just nervous.  Now, in my opinion, the mother has 100% good intentions, but isn’t this the beginning of being taught to not being present with what’s going on inside of us? Is this resonating with you already? Does this training spill over into every other area of your life?    Does this mentality spill over into your sensual life..your sensual self? It did mine! Ever since I read this, I have been very intentional about “feeling” and being really in tune with WHAT I’m feeling specifically in my body..paying attention to my core.  Do you see how being intentional about “feeling” what’s going on inside of you could be so beneficial on SO many levels?
We are taught as women to “hide”our sensuality, so we are deemed as “good girls”, but our sensual selves is WHO WE ARE and it’s natural and normal, it doesn’t make us “bad girls”!
This weekend and week ahead, be very intentional about “feeling” what you have going on inside of you and embrace it..Good or unpleasant and see what kind of shift happens in you personally.  There is no right or wrong way to feel what you’re feeling.  Honor where you are, acknowledge where you are, be present and LOVE yourself for it!!

Through The Eyes of Love,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com


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What is a Holistic Health Coach?

I get the question all of the time….”What is it you do exactly??”

First things first, what in the heck does “Holistic” mean??  My little handy dandy dictionary app defines holistic as 1. “incorporating the concept of holism in theory or practice: holistic psychology” 2. “Medicine/Medical.  Identifying with principles of holism in a system of therapeutics, especially one considered outside the mainstream of scientific medicine, as naturopathy or chiropractic, and often involving nutritional measures: holistic medicine.”.  Synonyms (adjective: complete, whole) are listed as:  Aggregate, comprehensive, entire, full, integrated, total and universal.  Synonyms (adjective: of broad-ranging consciousness-raising movement) are listed as: Age of Aquarius, alternative, astrological, balanced, crystal healing, holistic, mystic, occult, planetary, spiritual, supernaturalist.  Synonyms (adjective: good for health) are listed as:  Healthy, holistic, salubrious, wholesome.  Antonyms:  unhealthy.  My definition in layman’s terms: holistic is working with a client/patient as a WHOLE person and at every level:  Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Each of us are made up of 3 parts, the physical body, the spirit and our mind/emotions.  If one of our 3 parts is out of balance and/or sick, then it will affect the other 2 parts. Example:  Suzy Q can eat as clean and eat exactly what her body needs to be at optimum health BUT if Suzy Q has a stressful job, that she dreads going to and absolutely hates, then this WILL affect her physically, potentially raising blood pressure, causing belly fat and/or disrupting sleep.   Make sense???

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Who do I work with?

I work with clients that want to:  lose weight, eat healthier, manage stress, sleep well, heal their bodies naturally, have better relationships, want to live life to the fullest, enhance and grow their spiritual life, have success with weight loss surgery, learn to love themselves, have fulfilling sex lives, have a better quality of life, manage their time more efficiently, cook more.

Example:  I have a client that started with me when she was 38 and she has Graves Disease. Her Doctor’s RX was to do radiation on her thyroid, but of course, my client didn’t want to do this if it wasn’t necessary.  She came to me with hopes of learning some ways to tweak her diet and lifestyle in order to just regulate her thyroid levels; stress and diet impact the thyroid and was contributing to her levels being off.  By the end of her six month program with me, she went for a check up with her doctor and her levels were regulated, yay!!  Two months later, her levels were actually improved and her doctor has finally told her that she will leave her alone with regards to doing radiation on her thyroid…again, YAY!!!!  I am SO super proud of my client, because without her actually doing the “work”, nothing would’ve changed for her.

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What is my approach? 

Well, that depends on YOU!  Nutritionally, I take a bio individuality approach with each of my clients. What is bio individuality??  Bio individuality recognizes that everyone is a unique individual that has nutritional and physical activity requirements based on that uniqueness to reach optimum health.  In other words, food that is healthy and healing for me, could be poison for you.  Physical activity- same thing, everyone is different.  Example:  Your body may thrive on walking two miles a day, gentle yoga or a quick bike ride, whereas, my body NEEDS 90 minutes of KICK ASS, balls to the wall physical activity, 6 days a week, whether it’s Hot Yoga, running or an intense bike ride ALL uphill to be at optimum health.  Spirituality- I meet my clients where they “are”, through the eyes of love and support them through their journey to becoming fulfilled in their spiritual life, whatever that may look like for them.

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When do I work with my clients?

I typically work with my clients twice a month, either in my office face to face or through a phone or Skype appointment.  Through technology, I can literally work with anyone, anywhere in the world.  My clients have ongoing support from me between appointments through my private Facebook page (that is for my clients only) and through email, text or phone.  The first appointment is a Consultation Session, or as I like to call it, a Breakthrough Session.  During the Breakthrough Session, we cover concerns, goals and decide what the best approach is to help them reach their goals.

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My heart!

I DO LOVE each and every one of my clients SO much!  Each of them have impacted me in such a way, that I’m a better person for knowing them and for them making me apart of their lives.  I learn from each of my clients and feel my spirits lift each time I see them.  My heart is for each one to see themselves through the eyes of love and to see themselves as the perfection that they are! I thrive on the breakthroughs, the light bulb moments and the tears of healing…because I love the person in front of me and he or she deserves the absolute best that life has to offer them ♥

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How can you start YOUR process?

It’s actually very simple, just the way I like it!  Just visit my website by clicking here to get even more info.  From the landing page (home page),  click on the “Connect” tab and choose “health forms” from the drop down menu, then just submit your health form once you fill it out.  Once I receive it, I will contact you to set up your BREAKTHROUGH SESSION!  See….isn’t that easy!?

Feel free to share this article and if  you still have questions, or you have any comments, please feel free to drop a line below in the comments section….I love to hear from you!!

Through The Eyes of Love,

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

 


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Banana Bread-Gluten and Dairy Free

Banana Bread

I have taken a favorite recipe of mine, from my mother and tweaked it so I can have a gluten and dairy free version of banana bread, being that I’m intolerant to both gluten and dairy.  A lot of the time, when I purchase gluten and dairy free breads, I find that they are dry and a little tough…but you will NOT find that with this recipe!!  This banana bread is moist and I mean MOIST and very soft…probably because we really didn’t even give them time to cool down before we started shoving them in our pie hole!!

INGREDIENTS:

Not quite ¾ cup of Grade B maple syrup (organic)

½ cup earth balance shortening

3 ripe bananas (organic)

2 eggs well beaten (local, organic)

1 1/3 Bob’s Red Mill Flour

½ teaspoon salt

1 teaspoon baking soda

1/3 cup chopped pecans (organic)

Directions:

Cream syrup and shortening together then add bananas and eggs. Put flour, salt and baking soda together separately and mix.  Blend wet and dry ingredients and pecans but don’t over mix.  Bake in a loaf pan for 50 minutes at 350 degrees or in a muffin pan for approximately 12-15 minutes.

When you try this recipe, please comment on this post and let me know just how DELISH you think it is too!!!


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Pumpkin Soup

 

Tis Punkin’ Season!!!

It’s amazing how my body craves foods that are in season. This is something that started about 3-4 years ago for me. Craving foods that are in season; this is how our bodies are designed to operate and if our digestion is working correctly and addictions aren’t driving our cravings, then our bodies will crave what our bodies need AND seasonal. Today I threw together a new creation that I wanted to share with you.

Pumpkin Soup
(It’s important to use organic ingredients every opportunity you can)

Put a spoonful of ghee, butter, earth balance (whatever you use for butter) in your pan to melt.
Puree a few carrots, quarter of a sweet onion, half of a clove of garlic and coconut milk. Add pureed mixture to melted butter and stir in one can of pumpkin. Add a pack of stevia, honey or maple syrup (whatever you prefer),a little vanilla, cinnamon, salt and pepper to taste. Add additional coconut milk if needed to reach desired consistency. Bring to a slow boil, slowly stirring the whole time and cut heat down to low for five minutes.

It’s ready to eat! I did grind a little salt and pepper on top once in my bowl and its delicious!

Let me know if you try it and I’d love to hear what you think about it!  Start to finish took me about 10-15 minutes total, super quick and super easy!

 

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Roasted Summer Squash

Roasted Summer Squash

Preheat oven to 400°

Ingredients:

1-yellow squash, sliced

1-zucchini, sliced

1-small red onion, sliced

1-handful of mushrooms, sliced

1 cup of pecan pieces

1-clove of garlic, minced

salt and pepper

Directions:

Combine all ingredients in a bowl and toss with olive oil, sea salt or Himalayan salt and cracked black pepper until all vegetables are coated with the olive oil. Bake uncovered for 30 minutes.  How easy is THAT??!!!

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Some of my fall faves!


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Homemade Veggie Soup

Homemade Veggie Soup

Ingredients:

2 Free Range Chicken Legs

2 tablespoons Organic, cold pressed Extra Virgin Olive Oil

2 Cartons of Organic Vegetable Soup Broth

2 Cloves of garlic (1-keep whole, just peeled and 1-minced)

Organic Kale (washed and torn from the stem, tear into bite size pieces)

Organic Onion (sliced and diced)

Organic Carrots (julienne)

Organic Parsnips (peel with carrot peeler and julienne)

Organic Cauliflower

Organic Celery (julienne)

5 Organic Red Potatoes (halve and slice)

Directions:

Boil chicken legs with a clove of garlic, salt and pepper
In a separate pot, sauté onions and fresh, minced garlic in two tablespoons of olive oil with salt and pepper, until tender.
Add two cartons of organic vegetable broth.
Meantime, julianne carrots and parsnips, halve and slice 5 red potatoes. Chop cauliflower and celery.
When chicken is falling off of the bone, discard the skin and bones and combine the chicken, veggie broth and the broth from the boiled chicken. Add all veggies and simmer until the potatoes are tender, last five minutes add kale.

This would be great to make on Sunday to have for the week. It’s so good that you won’t even want to grab a bite to eat while you’re out and about because you will know you have this waiting for you, ENJOY!!
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