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Do You Feel….YOU?????

I read something this week that really resonated with me,from the book Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone.  She is talking about how people, women specifically, have been trained to not feel sensation.  Nicole gives the following example: a mother is taking her little girl to her first day of kindergarten and the little girl states that she has butterflies in her stomach.  Her mother dismisses the feeling that is in her daughter’s belly by stating that she’s just nervous.  Now, in my opinion, the mother has 100% good intentions, but isn’t this the beginning of being taught to not being present with what’s going on inside of us? Is this resonating with you already? Does this training spill over into every other area of your life?    Does this mentality spill over into your sensual life..your sensual self? It did mine! Ever since I read this, I have been very intentional about “feeling” and being really in tune with WHAT I’m feeling specifically in my body..paying attention to my core.  Do you see how being intentional about “feeling” what’s going on inside of you could be so beneficial on SO many levels?
We are taught as women to “hide”our sensuality, so we are deemed as “good girls”, but our sensual selves is WHO WE ARE and it’s natural and normal, it doesn’t make us “bad girls”!
This weekend and week ahead, be very intentional about “feeling” what you have going on inside of you and embrace it..Good or unpleasant and see what kind of shift happens in you personally.  There is no right or wrong way to feel what you’re feeling.  Honor where you are, acknowledge where you are, be present and LOVE yourself for it!!

Through The Eyes of Love,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com

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What is a Holistic Health Coach?

I get the question all of the time….”What is it you do exactly??”

First things first, what in the heck does “Holistic” mean??  My little handy dandy dictionary app defines holistic as 1. “incorporating the concept of holism in theory or practice: holistic psychology” 2. “Medicine/Medical.  Identifying with principles of holism in a system of therapeutics, especially one considered outside the mainstream of scientific medicine, as naturopathy or chiropractic, and often involving nutritional measures: holistic medicine.”.  Synonyms (adjective: complete, whole) are listed as:  Aggregate, comprehensive, entire, full, integrated, total and universal.  Synonyms (adjective: of broad-ranging consciousness-raising movement) are listed as: Age of Aquarius, alternative, astrological, balanced, crystal healing, holistic, mystic, occult, planetary, spiritual, supernaturalist.  Synonyms (adjective: good for health) are listed as:  Healthy, holistic, salubrious, wholesome.  Antonyms:  unhealthy.  My definition in layman’s terms: holistic is working with a client/patient as a WHOLE person and at every level:  Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Each of us are made up of 3 parts, the physical body, the spirit and our mind/emotions.  If one of our 3 parts is out of balance and/or sick, then it will affect the other 2 parts. Example:  Suzy Q can eat as clean and eat exactly what her body needs to be at optimum health BUT if Suzy Q has a stressful job, that she dreads going to and absolutely hates, then this WILL affect her physically, potentially raising blood pressure, causing belly fat and/or disrupting sleep.   Make sense???

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Who do I work with?

I work with clients that want to:  lose weight, eat healthier, manage stress, sleep well, heal their bodies naturally, have better relationships, want to live life to the fullest, enhance and grow their spiritual life, have success with weight loss surgery, learn to love themselves, have fulfilling sex lives, have a better quality of life, manage their time more efficiently, cook more.

Example:  I have a client that started with me when she was 38 and she has Graves Disease. Her Doctor’s RX was to do radiation on her thyroid, but of course, my client didn’t want to do this if it wasn’t necessary.  She came to me with hopes of learning some ways to tweak her diet and lifestyle in order to just regulate her thyroid levels; stress and diet impact the thyroid and was contributing to her levels being off.  By the end of her six month program with me, she went for a check up with her doctor and her levels were regulated, yay!!  Two months later, her levels were actually improved and her doctor has finally told her that she will leave her alone with regards to doing radiation on her thyroid…again, YAY!!!!  I am SO super proud of my client, because without her actually doing the “work”, nothing would’ve changed for her.

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What is my approach? 

Well, that depends on YOU!  Nutritionally, I take a bio individuality approach with each of my clients. What is bio individuality??  Bio individuality recognizes that everyone is a unique individual that has nutritional and physical activity requirements based on that uniqueness to reach optimum health.  In other words, food that is healthy and healing for me, could be poison for you.  Physical activity- same thing, everyone is different.  Example:  Your body may thrive on walking two miles a day, gentle yoga or a quick bike ride, whereas, my body NEEDS 90 minutes of KICK ASS, balls to the wall physical activity, 6 days a week, whether it’s Hot Yoga, running or an intense bike ride ALL uphill to be at optimum health.  Spirituality- I meet my clients where they “are”, through the eyes of love and support them through their journey to becoming fulfilled in their spiritual life, whatever that may look like for them.

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When do I work with my clients?

I typically work with my clients twice a month, either in my office face to face or through a phone or Skype appointment.  Through technology, I can literally work with anyone, anywhere in the world.  My clients have ongoing support from me between appointments through my private Facebook page (that is for my clients only) and through email, text or phone.  The first appointment is a Consultation Session, or as I like to call it, a Breakthrough Session.  During the Breakthrough Session, we cover concerns, goals and decide what the best approach is to help them reach their goals.

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My heart!

I DO LOVE each and every one of my clients SO much!  Each of them have impacted me in such a way, that I’m a better person for knowing them and for them making me apart of their lives.  I learn from each of my clients and feel my spirits lift each time I see them.  My heart is for each one to see themselves through the eyes of love and to see themselves as the perfection that they are! I thrive on the breakthroughs, the light bulb moments and the tears of healing…because I love the person in front of me and he or she deserves the absolute best that life has to offer them ♥

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How can you start YOUR process?

It’s actually very simple, just the way I like it!  Just visit my website by clicking here to get even more info.  From the landing page (home page),  click on the “Connect” tab and choose “health forms” from the drop down menu, then just submit your health form once you fill it out.  Once I receive it, I will contact you to set up your BREAKTHROUGH SESSION!  See….isn’t that easy!?

Feel free to share this article and if  you still have questions, or you have any comments, please feel free to drop a line below in the comments section….I love to hear from you!!

Through The Eyes of Love,

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

 


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It’s a New Day, Indeed!

I wrote this blog post in June and honestly, I’ve been wrestling with it and I’m not sure why??

Last week was a tough week,  with it being my sister’s birthday that we lost Christmas Eve.  I went to the memorial park where she is buried to place flowers on her grave, to honor her and to recognize her birthday. I was honestly expecting her grave to be really easy to find because I was thinking that it would have flowers and balloons on it because it was her birthday. I looked for her grave with the help of my boyfriend and another couple for a total of two hours…to no avail.  The next day I went back, roses in hand, and contacted the office of the memorial park to help me find my sister’s grave.  This super sweet, compassionate and helpful woman came from the office to the memorial park with the coordinates to her burial site and we found it.  It was very confusing to both of us because her grave did not have a marker on it, did not have one flower, it didn’t have anything??  It felt so unsettling and my mind was racing with questions. It felt as if she was buried and forgotten about.  I felt nauseous, I felt sorry, I felt angry. Her roses were in a glass vase and I couldn’t put glass on her grave, so I asked the lady helping me if I could take them out of the vase and just lay them on her grave..she thought for a minute and said, “you know, I found a plastic vase this morning and put it in my car.  You can have it!”.  I just so happen to have a towel in my car, so I wiped the dirt off of it and put my sister’s roses in it and put it in the ground on her grave.

The sweet lady helping me left and I plopped on the ground beside my sister’s grave and placed my hand over where she rest.  I sat there for 30 minutes and was in complete silence at times, talking to her at times and weeping at times.  In the back of my mind, I was also trying to figure out how I was going to tell my parents this news, knowing it was going to be another heartache for them.  I spent the day and night just processing all of this and feeling like I had been kicked in the stomach.  When I went to bed that night, it was on my mind and heaviness was on me, but I knew there was nothing I could do because it’s out of my hands.

The next morning I woke up bright and early, grabbed my cup of “Joe” and headed outside.  I picked up a chair and sat it in the sun.  The morning air was warm with a slight breeze and everything felt fresh and new.  I played one of my favorite songs, tilted my head back, closed my eyes and soaked up the beautiful, warm sunshine on my face and took in a deep breath.  While basking in the warmth, I felt light, comforted, NEW!  In this moment I realized that this is one of the reasons we were designed to sleep; not only to rest and renew our bodies and our minds, but to rest and renew our spirits too! Think about it..what if we didn’t sleep? There would be no start and stop, everything would be a continuum.  It would be nearly impossible to move forward with life or to grow personally, EVERYTHING would weigh us down! This really does tie in with my core message when I do speaking engagements, we are all created in perfection, we are all loved, we are all cared about!

If we are loved and cared about to the finest detail, then shouldn’t we, in turn, love ourselves?  I’ll be the first to admit that I’m wrapped up in stretch marks and I used to HATE them!  A couple of years ago, I was complaining to a friend about my stretch marks and he said something VERY profound to me, “would you rather have your stretch marks AND your  beautiful children OR a body without stretch marks and NOT have your children?”..of course, I’d rather have my beautiful children AND my stretch marks! I can’t even dislike my stretch marks anymore, if my brain even tries to go there, I end up feeling gratitude for them because of who they represent.
Take a look in the mirror…go ahead, do it! Look at the reflection of the beautiful, PERFECT creation standing before you! Look at every part of your body from head to toe and look at the gifts..Yes, even your stretch marks ladies! Think about how intricate our bodies are, what it requires for us to thrive and what it can ENDURE when we don’t make loving decisions for our bodies! It’s amazing!
Tonight, when you lay your head down, make peace with everything from your day that you can’t control.  It doesn’t serve you to hold on to it.  If there are things you CAN change, then make peace with those things by committing to address them the next day…YOUR NEW DAY, INDEED!

Do you have a fresh perspective?  Feel free to share and comment with your VERY profound moments, inspiration or even how you start your day ANEW!

Through The Eyes of Love,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
Awakening Holistic Healthcare 
http://awakening-internal.com


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Total Detox – Total Transformation – Total Support

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    You won’t find this kind of support anywhere else!

Throughout the 12-days I will show you how to reduce painful inflammation, integrate exercise and vital movement into your daily life, and transform your body into its best state of being!

You’ll also learn:

  • Effective ways to release toxins
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Everything you consume during your Sexy Summer 12-day Detox, is designed to give your body the best, most compact sources of nutrition. If you’re trying to lose weight, this is the perfect kick-off! 

You’ll recognize the real benefit to this system is cleansing and detoxing with good nutritious whole foods. ..not chemicals or processed foods…just good clean food.

Most importantly, afterwards you will enjoy the emphasis I place on teaching you the no-fail secrets to maintaining your healthy lifestyle indefinitely!  You will have the opportunity to enroll in my Six Month Online Group Program.

 

Although I know you can’t put a price on health, I am offering a discount of 25% through midnight, August 6th and after August 6th, your Sexy Summer 12 Day Detox goes back to it’s full price of $197.  Register today and get on the road to healthy! Your body will thank you for it!  

Through The Eyes of Love,

 

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

Awakening Holistic Healthcare

michelle.manning@awakening-internal.com

 

 

 

 

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Red Tent Revival

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This is an awesome event that I was a part of this past fall and it’s life changing, I will be joining again on May 16th and in fact, I’m now an affiliate for this event because it completely lines up with my heart…empowering women to love their true, authentic selves.

I have something to share with you that’s incredibly real… incredibly raw… and it just might rock your world.

In fact, it’s something that WOMAN wants – but is afraid to ask for…

It’s luscious… and it’s LIVE.

It’s a free 5-day online festival that will REVIVE everything it means to be a woman…

>> It’s called the Red Tent Revival and it’s happening very soon. https://no122.infusionsoft.com/go/rtr2014all/awakening

It’s hosted by Kristin Sweeting Morelli and if you know Kristin… she’s known for breaking down barriers and empowering women… and for years, she’s very much wanted to bring to life an epic, totally unique, online experience, available women around the world!

This Red Tent Revival is a reflection of a journey to pleasure that has completely changed her life.

>> And now she wants to help you change yours in ways you can’t even imagine. https://no122.infusionsoft.com/go/rtr2014all/awakening

In the Red Tent you’ll learn the ancient secrets to reviving your pleasure and returning to your feminine truth… but it doesn’t stop there.

There’ll be dancing… lots of dancing.

There’ll be sisterhood…

And there’ll be a few unmentionables…

But mostly, there will be 5 days of unbridled fun!

You don’t want to miss it! I’m personally inviting you to join me, Kristin, and tens of thousands of women in the Red Tent Revival.

>> All you have to do is click here. https://no122.infusionsoft.com/go/rtr2014all/awakening

 
 
Through The Eyes of Love ,
 
 
Michelle Manning, CHHC, AADP
Awakening Holistic Healthcare
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Collards For Breakfast??

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Do you want my unique spin on breakfast and a traditional southern staple that I have taken from zero to hero?
American’s do not get enough leafy greens in their diet.  The perception is that it takes too long to prepare healthy food and that it’s too expensive.  Back in the day, when I used to cook a traditional southern meal, I would spend HOURS in the kitchen!  Now, I can cook a healthy meal and from start to finish we’re sitting at the table before you can say “Y’all pass the grits!”.  This meal that I’m sharing with you takes 10 minutes, so no excuses for stopping by your favorite greasy spoon to get a tenderloin, egg and cheese biscuit that’s going to make you want to just go back to bed!!  Try implementing fresh veggies and fruit into your breakfast and see how much better you feel, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally too!

 

Saute red onion and mushrooms in Organic Earth Balance (Butter Substitute) with black pepper and sea salt or Himalayan salt.

Once tender, add handfuls of collards into bite-size pieces into your skillet and a 1/2 cup or so of water to create steam.

Steam for about 5 minutes, until tender and serve!

Through The Eyes Of Love y’all,
Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP
Awakening Holistic Healthcare,  Health Coach


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Are You Worth A Nickel?

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Living in the bible belt, I have heard many Preachers stand in the pulpit and proclaim, “WE AREN’T WORTHY!“, and I want to stand up and shout to the top of my lungs, “YES WE ARE!!”. I honestly think these are well-meaning people, but I think they have it all wrong. If man says “we are not worthy” and your creator says “you ARE worth everything”, then who is right? Man or your creator? My vote goes to my creator!! Saying that we’re not worthy is a really good way to keep congregations in a state of feeling guilty and shameful, plus, it’s a great tool for controlling their followers…especially women.

When I was 17, I “dated” an 18-year-old young man, we’ll call him Jason. Jason had zero respect for me and was completely detached emotionally. During this brief time that I dated him, he raped me twice. Both times I said “no”, but was easily intimidated and I didn’t have the “fight or flight” instinct in me, I just FROZE. He ignored my “no” and proceeded with his agenda. I walked away both times feeling that I was worse than trash and that I somehow deserved it because I didn’t fight back. I couldn’t tell anyone because WHAT IF they confirmed my worse fear….that it was my fault. I guess after the second rape, Jason was done with me and moved on to his next naïve, precious girl. Later that school year, I went to the beach over spring break with some friends and ran into Jason at the mall. We stopped and spoke for a minute and when we walked away, I told my friends not to let him take me anywhere if he showed up that night at our condo because I was afraid of him. I knew in my gut that he was going to show up and he did. He walked in and took me by the hand and literally drug me out of our condo and for the first time, I resisted by pulling away from him. He overpowered me and put me in his lap in his car and had a friend driving and one of my girlfriends was in the backseat, oblivious to what was about happen. His friend drove us to their hotel room and Jason told me to sit on the bed while he opened a beer for us. I took a few drinks of my beer and Jason started reaching for the drawer beside his bed and started opening a condom, I quickly and firmly told him “no!” and like in the past, he ignored me as if I wasn’t speaking..as if I didn’t have a voice. The room started spinning, I started getting very sleepy and tried to get up to leave but I couldn’t move. I don’t know how much time had passed but I woke up, under the covers and undressed from the waist down and I knew he had raped me. About the time I was waking up, his friend came through the door and Jason got out of bed and said, “take her back to her condo, I’m getting a shower”. I was so confused… I didn’t know what time it was, how long I had been asleep, WHY I fell asleep and I was so groggy that I just did what I was told to do. I learned many years later that Jason had given me a date rape drug.

(Whew! That was hard to write and relive! It has cause a visceral reaction in my gut and I’m shaking like a leaf!)

Being violated and treated this way sent me spiraling into the abyss of darkness, depression and not thinking I was good enough for anyone, ESPECIALLY a man who would truly love and respect me. I made decisions for most of my life based on this image I had of myself. I embraced the belief that my femininity was a curse, beauty is ugly and I can not stress this enough, but I hated myself!! The shame, guilt and fear that I embraced, drove me to land in a marriage that was very volatile, controlling and constant cheating. I remember on several occasions after being verbally or even physically attacked thinking, I don’t blame him…I hate me too!! In the middle of the chaos I started reaching for what was in the kitchen cabinets to soothe me, food! In retrospect, I realize I was also building a physical wall around me, to protect me from anyone hurting me again through rape or abuse. By the time I was 33, I weighed in at 258 pounds and was classified by doctors as morbidly obese. I somehow thought that if I was “skinny” that my life would be perfect because being “skinny” would somehow add value to me as a person. On January 31, 2003 I had gastric bypass surgery and in 10 months I was down to a very healthy weight, but nothing about my life had changed, except my dress size. When I settled into my new body, that’s when the proverbial shit hit the fan, but that is a whole other story for another blog post on a later day. Point being, I want you to see what lead my thoughts about myself to such a dark place and how not loving myself affected my life. Through lots of tears, courage and time, I have healed and learned to love myself and I know that I’m perfect being exactly who I am!

There are many people, men and women, that really struggle with wrapping their mind around knowing of or seeing a woman who embraces her beauty, sensuality, intelligence, intuition and living her life to her full potential. Women that DO dance to the beat of their own drum, find a lot of the time, incorrect assumptions are made about them. A perfect example of this is, several years ago, my husband and I were going out with friends about once a month. We would usually go to Raleigh and go dancing, listen to bands and have a lot of fun! Because of this, a male member of my family called me and he asked me if we were swingers!! Now, I have to admit that this was a HUGE set back for me because it put me back to feeling like I was lower than low. The good news is, through a few of my counseling sessions I got back on track and realized that what he thought of me was his issue and it said nothing about me.

You were created for a very real purpose and really great things are waiting for you! Honor where you are, whether it’s where you want to be or not. If it’s not where you want to be then you can make a shift starting right now! The first step is to start learning to love yourself and this can be very difficult on your own. If this is a direction you want and need to go, then seek out support. When you learn to love yourself, then you learn to accept healthy love from others and you learn to love others in a healthy way. You will be open and available for a love that runs deep, from your heart, from your soul. You will have the potential to find a love that you never knew was possible for yourself, for someone and from someone whether that is with your partner you have now or, if single, someone in your future. When you love and respect yourself, you will put healthier food into your body because you will KNOW that you only deserve the best and of course, by default, you will make loving decisions for your life.

So, are you with a nickel?? YES!! You are PRICELESS, to infinite and back!! Your creator doesn’t make JUNK! You, like me, are PERFECT being exactly who you are. Each creation on this planet is complete beauty and perfection, and that absolutely includes YOU!!

Through The Eyes Of Love,

Michelle Dancy, CHHC, AADP

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IF YOU ARE NOT MAKING LOVING DECISIONS FOR YOUR LIFE AND NEED SUPPORT LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF, CONTACT ME AT michelledancy.healthcoach@gmail.com FOR YOUR FREE CONSULTATION